Julie, ten going on twenty five is SUCH a confusing age to be :) I remember it well! :) Lisa WILL be fine. She has a wonderful mum who loves her and that will win through any and all difficult times. :)

Something that strikes me from your post is a stage we went through with my daughter when she was 11/12. She started being REALLY horrible to her little brother. :( He idolised her and it was so hard seeing her develop great big clod-hopping feet of clay from his perspective. It wasm't easy, but I had to point that out to her, and in doing so managed to get her to open up and discovered that she was going through some abysmal bullying from someone at school who had once been a friend of hers. As soon as that was resolved - she stopped lashing out. :)

I may be wrong - but it sounds to me like Lisa is hurting :( ... that might be why she's "hurting" others. It's perfectly understandable, you've all suffered so much :( All you can do is keep the lines of communication open with her as best you can - which I know you will do.

You mentioned that she is a bully to her sister.

Not all bullies are true bullies. So often "bullying" behaviours are actually triggered by the supposed "bully" themself experiencing bullying or victimisation and/or isolation from others. Is it possible that Lisa might be suffering something like that at school? Either from peers, or even - from an unsympathetic teacher perhaps? She may be lashing out with hurtful things at home - because at home, where she knows she is loved, she feels safe to do so.

Children today are under so much pressure :( society heaps so many responsibilities on them... it may be something as simple as that. Keep talking to each other - I don't believe for one minute that she really wants to hurt you or her sister in any way. If it can be resolved before she hits her teens - like in the case of my daughter - the teenage years might not be too bad at all :) Good luck!


@ everyone else - really moving posts about all those you've known and loved who've served us all as soldiers. Thank you :)

And wise words on the importance of loving home circumstances for children to be brought up in - however they are made up. :)

I may be wrong - but it sounds to me like Lisa is hurting :( ...

Of course she's hurting, she lost her dad and sister and almost here mum at the age of 7, a crucial age. Plus she's the only one who got Yoko to talk again after the accident. Yoko was mute for over two months. Welcome back anniet.

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I was bullied by a pair of twins at school, My siblings had already moved out years before, the bullying started in earnest in 1972, at the time Mom had just divorced Dad, We were in one half of a duplex that We rented out for $180 a month, which lasted up until about 1979-1980, when Mom was given a House by Her Brother, one loaded with termites and of course that was uninsulated, needed new paint, a new roof on both the house and the garage(I bought the rolls of roofing paper, the roofing nails and proceeded to reroof the garage Myself and rewire the garage too w/romex in 12/2), the garage was built with 2"x3" lumber, slightly smaller than a 2"x4" of today, the House though used unplaned 2"x4" lumber, repairs had been made after both were bagged/gassed for termites. Oh and a rubber tree that My uncle had planted next to the house had done it's work on the houses foundation, though nothing was done besides cut the tree down and poison it, no repairs to the foundation or replacement concrete for the patio were laid, I don't think We had the money as rates were pretty high then, My Uncle was no help, as He advised US to do nothing and wait for rates to fall, meanwhile the house was old, expensive to run and super HOT, hotter than 100F inside in the summer, it also had obsolete tube and post wiring with no grounds, yet the house had a modern 100A electric panel w/breakers, We also had to cut down a large shady tree in the backyard as it was deemed unsavable and subject to falling over, possibly on the house, I also had to fix the sprinkler system in the front yard, which had one section totally rusted out, so since it needed some repairs, I used some Walters Goo to cement a short section of new pvc pipe to the old galvanized steel pipe of the sprinkler system and installed two or so new sprinkler heads and removed some evergreens that had been invaded by devils grass and that was slowly dying and planted plugs of Saint Augustine grass which was invading from a neighbors property, oh and We repainted the inside of the house, redid the kitchen cabinets and laid new reddish carpet over real hardwood floors(none were level).

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:( being one of a pair of twins Vic, I would like to apologise for the behaviour of the ones that bullied you. Must have been awful for you.

Julie - sorry if my comments seemed insensitive. Wasn't my intention at all. :( It's Lisa's love for her sister and her devotion to her that got Yoko talking again, and that love will always be there.

:( being one of a pair of twins Vic, I would like to apologize for the behaviour of the ones that bullied you. Must have been awful for you.

Julie - sorry if my comments seemed insensitive. Wasn't my intention at all. :( It's Lisa's love for her sister and her devotion to her that got Yoko talking again, and that love will always be there.

Once I got in the 7th grade at Junior High School, the bullying ended from them, as We weren't the same classes or periods. So don't worry about it, that was a long time ago.

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We have lost a beloved member of our family,
so for now we are in deep sadness here.

Daisy has always held a special place in our hearts. We were very sad to hear of her sudden illness, and un timely passing.

We wish to thank all those who were there for her when she was in need. We extend a great thanks to our dear sister Lynda

for the updates to us, and a deep appreciation for the care she showed to Daisy as her journey to God neared its completion.

Rest in Peace.

The Russell family in Alberta.



http://thechronicleherald.ca/obituaries/1211947-russell-daisy-a

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We have lost a beloved member of our family,
so for now we are in deep sadness here.

Daisy has always held a special place in our hearts. We were very sad to hear of her sudden illness, and un timely passing.

We wish to thank all those who were there for her when she was in need. We extend a great thanks to our dear sister Lynda

for the updates to us, and a deep appreciation for the care she showed to Daisy as her journey to God neared its completion.

Rest in Peace.

The Russell family in Alberta.


http://thechronicleherald.ca/obituaries/1211947-russell-daisy-a

Oh Ian, I'm so, so sorry to hear your news :( My thoughts are with you and your family. So sad. :(

I'm sorry to hear of your loss Celt.

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Daisy was a red head, the first I can
remember seeing as a small child so I
always felt very close to her.
She was one of our second cousins.


Thanks to all for your kindness.

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Very sorry for your loss Ian. :(

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Im sorry for you and your familys loss Ian.

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Very sorry for your loss. Take care Celtooth.

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I'm sorry to hear this sad news, Ian. :-(

God bless you and your family in this sad time.

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My condolences Celtooth.

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:( Am experiencing spells of pathetic-edness grieving for a complete stranger and the family that loved and lost him. :(

3am Sunday morning our phone rang. The transplant unit had "good news"... assuming my other half was well enough for surgery (which sadly he wasn't) a feasible match had been found for him to receive a kidney.

I'd never really thought through what a moment like that would feel like :( For more than ten years it's always been there - never be far away from a phone - always be "reachable" - always keep my mobile phone charged - never turn it off - just in case... just part of the hope to see someone you love escape the dialysis treadmill.

But the actuality of it was horrible. :( How do you feel happy without feeling sick to the stomach whilst you do so, when it's at the price of someone else's sadness?

Even before we learned a few hours later that it would be transforming someone else's life, it was the worst "good news" we've ever received :( and today, after dialysis, my other half informed me he'd taken his name off the transplant list because "he can't go through that again" :( and he refuses to discuss it any further, but that's not what this post is about.

My heart goes out to them, whoever they were. In the midst of the pain of losing their loved one, they bravely agreed to bequeath so much to so many... and I'm left humbled by the knowledge that amazing people like them are doing that everyday.

So just in case there is someone like that out there now - thank you.

Annie, this is hard news to read. While I've never been in that sort of situation, I truly feel some sense of what you're going through.

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Annie, I, sorry that you are for a better word bewilderd. Our thougts are with you.

A kidney donation does not have to mean that some family sufferd a loss. My brother in law had a cousin donate a kidney. There are some great selfless people out there who do things like that.

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Well, unfortunately, I have some bad news about my dad. Due to excessive scar tissue; he has kidney stones that are trapped in the ureter of his left kidney. They tried to remove the kidney stones; but, couldn't get them.

Now, after seeing a couple specialists, my dad is scheduled to have his left kidney removed; because, its function is down to 10% of normal. He will have the operation on the 23rd of this month.

Please pray for him, and send good thoughts. Thanks everyone.

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