HI Gordon,

thanks for sharing. I think - James Sotherden, Julie, and Annie have said it much better than I ever could,

and I share their Good thoughts and advice.

I am not an educated person but ........

I once posted about my nervous breakdown, when my beloved father was dying of incurable cancer,

and how I witness my mother commit suicide when I was ten years old.

and how I now support and I am a caregiver to my younger Brother - who has suffered from Bipolar condition all his Life.

I know many people have gone thru much worse than I have. I guess we all have.

at that time you offered me help and counseling for my depression.

Gordon ... if there is any way I can help, please contact me.

Byron

What your mum is forgetting are chunks of time - not you. Where a chunk has gone missing (that she knows must have happened, eg the regular physical therapy) her brain patches the hole with a memory of "physical therapy" and it's unlikely to be a complete memory. Knowing she's lost a chunk (for however briefly she realises it) will make her anxious, and so the copy paste will be inexact and will leave out any other details that would normally have been part of the copied memory (you being there for example). As the therapy is not exactly the highlight of her day, anything positive from the pastedmemory is very likely to be left behind and not duplicated. Does that make sense?

Annie, that is very well-put. I follow that.

And going along with that, simple, "nice" short-term memories, like a BLT with Benedictine, that we talked about getting a few days ago, are recalled easily. Another example is how she doesn't like Neil deGrasse Tyson compared to Carl Sagan.

It seems like all the memories are in her brain somewhere. I just stumble onto keys for different rooms where they're being stored. Her longer term memories(in my definition, those older than two years or so) seem to be in safer rooms with much better access.

She may sometimes just need a few moments longer to reboot if something has made her anxious or confused.

Absolutely. I see this, too.

HI Gordon,

thanks for sharing. I think - James Sotherden, Julie, and Annie have said it much better than I ever could,

and I share their Good thoughts and advice.

Thanks, Byron.

I know how you feel Gordan about your mom not knowing who you are. I had that happen with my dad. He had just enterd the 4th stage of Parkinson. And had pneumonia bad. We all thought he was going to die then. when he finally came out of it He didnt know I was his oldest son. That was actually crushing to me. And I knew then his time on this earth was short. The next day he knew who I was. But thats when his Dr. told all of us he had six months at the most. He lived for 4.
I will allways miss my dad. Just like he missed his dad, Who died at the age of 58. My dad was 81 when he passed on.
Its the circle of life Gordan. At one point you are the youngest in the family. At the next the oldest.
Just do what you are doing Gordan. You and your mom will make the best of it.

Thanks, James. We both actually do say to each other a lot, "we're doing the best we can".


p.s. One of the nurses today asked her if I was her only baby. She laughed and said, "yes, who needs more than one big baby?". Priceless.

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Do you know what? I never cease to be moved by this thread :) Okay, it's often to a soggy, or near-soggy-eyed state :( but that's what empathy does to you I suppose, and I wouldn't have it any other way :) Loving is one of the hardest things we do to ourselves – because it sets us up for inevitable loss in so many tragic ways.

I am so glad it was only a temporary lapse that terrible day when your dad did not know who you were James... and so sorry that what must have been such a wonderful moment of relief on the day that followed, had to be cruelly dashed by the news from the doctor. That's one awful rollercoaster ride :(

And you are absolutely right... (Gordon – James is absolutely right :)) ... when you say:

Its the circle of life Gordan. At one point you are the youngest in the family. At the next the oldest.
Just do what you are doing Gordan. You and your mom will make the best of it.

... and there will be many good, heartwarming and utterly endearing times ahead too :) Just like this one...

One of the nurses today asked her if I was her only baby. She laughed and said, "yes, who needs more than one big baby?". Priceless.

:))))))))))))))))))))) (I would love to meet your mum! :))

Just remember to focus on your here and now as much as you can, each and every day, giving every moment the maximum squeeze possible! :) I'm glad my previous post made sense with regards the memory lapses – and yes! It's all about finding those triggers that lead to those misplaced keys :)

And Byron :) I know you will pooh-pooh this... (er... ahem... apologies for bringing the tone of the thread down there rather dramatically everyone... :/) but you greatly underestimate yourself. :) Do you have any idea how many extra smile wrinkles you've given me with every one of your posts?! No? Yes! I thought not! :)

You have risen above some truly tragic circumstances, starting at such a tender age :( and when you posted some of that to the thread, it broke my heart to hear them :( It's just as James said though – the circle of life... Your younger brother is blessed to have such a wonderful caring sibling looking out for him. And we at Seti are too. :)

PS: Isn't it brilliant SETI didn't stay broken for too long! :)

We All have a lot to contribute here. And like Annie, I have shed a few tears reading about some of the heart breaking stories told in here.
The one lesson I have learned, And I see it echoed in here is,
Yes I have had it tough, But I choose to go forward and live and enjoy life. Not dwell on the bad parts.

And to be honest back in my younger days, I did dwell on the bad. I realised after a fashion that was foolish thinking. Get over it and move on. Time is short the older you get. Screw the past, Lets see the future.

And I thank every single one of you for reinforceing that.

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I knew it! :)

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I really have to apologise for the source in this instance, but I hope that this may be of some relevance here.

Sharing

Well, now the scientists have proven what many of us learned from experience.

And note the sidebar about stress and anxiety being contagious? Isn't that one of the principles of crowd psychology / herd mentality? That we react to, and feed off of, other people's emotions?

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The people taking care of my mother are great. I plan to get a bunch of these things for them in the morning.

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I really have to apologise for the source in this instance, but I hope that this may be of some relevance here.

Sharing

Well, now the scientists have proven what many of us learned from experience.

And note the sidebar about stress and anxiety being contagious? Isn't that one of the principles of crowd psychology / herd mentality? That we react to, and feed off of, other people's emotions?

I work with a person(the Security Guard I mentioned several weeks ago) who likes to stir things up, and she really likes to see other people having a hard time because I think it takes her mind off her own problems.

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Had a great talk with my mom's doctor today, and he's going to remove what's left of the feeding tube on Thursday, and I can take her home any time after that. I just need to arrange Home Health. She has come a long way, and her doctor just reiterated to me what he said at the beginning of this ordeal, back in March, that he thought she was falling apart(and might die), but by golly, she has come back, and I am very happy and excited to get her home asap.
He said he's still mystified as to why she went down hill as much as she did, but he said sometimes medicine just doesn't even know.

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Had a great talk with my mom's doctor today, and he's going to remove what's left of the feeding tube on Thursday, and I can take her home any time after that. I just need to arrange Home Health. She has come a long way, and her doctor just reiterated to me what he said at the beginning of this ordeal, back in March, that he thought she was falling apart(and might die), but by golly, she has come back, and I am very happy and excited to get her home asap.
He said he's still mystified as to why she went down hill as much as she did, but he said sometimes medicine just doesn't even know.

Gordon ... this is Great news!

Please give your Mum our Love and Best Wishes.

you must be very happy and pleased.

God Bless you and your Mum.

Best Wishes
Byron

Had a great talk with my mom's doctor today, and he's going to remove what's left of the feeding tube on Thursday, and I can take her home any time after that. I just need to arrange Home Health. She has come a long way, and her doctor just reiterated to me what he said at the beginning of this ordeal, back in March, that he thought she was falling apart(and might die), but by golly, she has come back, and I am very happy and excited to get her home asap.
He said he's still mystified as to why she went down hill as much as she did, but he said sometimes medicine just doesn't even know.

Gordon ... this is Great news!

Please give your Mum our Love and Best Wishes.

you must be very happy and pleased.

God Bless you and your Mum.

Best Wishes
Byron

+ 1000 :) Truly wonderful news! :)

Had a great talk with my mom's doctor today, and he's going to remove what's left of the feeding tube on Thursday, and I can take her home any time after that. I just need to arrange Home Health. She has come a long way, and her doctor just reiterated to me what he said at the beginning of this ordeal, back in March, that he thought she was falling apart(and might die), but by golly, she has come back, and I am very happy and excited to get her home asap.
He said he's still mystified as to why she went down hill as much as she did, but he said sometimes medicine just doesn't even know.

Gordon ... this is Great news!

Please give your Mum our Love and Best Wishes.

you must be very happy and pleased.

God Bless you and your Mum.

Best Wishes
Byron

+ 1000 :) Truly wonderful news! :)

+2000 :)

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Modern medicine is not as exact a science as some practitioners want (and want us) to believe. So much depends on the attitude/mental state of the patient. And once in a great while, a little Divine Intervention.....

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And once in a great while, a little Divine Intervention.....

True, Donald:)

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Good news indeed Gordan. You and your moms strong will did the trick.

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Well after 3 days of trouble they came and got my GF and took her to the Hospital. She made about 20 feet again today and I grabed her before hitting the floor.:( I told her this is it your going and I mean now!

Good of you Grant:) You're there to support her!

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Well after 3 days of trouble they came and got my GF and took her to the Hospital. She made about 20 feet again today and I grabed her before hitting the floor.:( I told her this is it your going and I mean now!

I'm sorry she's having trouble, Grant. I'm glad that you are there for her; and, hope that her hospital stay isn't going to be long.

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Well after 3 days of trouble they came and got my GF and took her to the Hospital. She made about 20 feet again today and I grabed her before hitting the floor.:( I told her this is it your going and I mean now!

Grant, please check in here and update us with how she's doing.

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Well after 3 days of trouble they came and got my GF and took her to the Hospital. She made about 20 feet again today and I grabed her before hitting the floor.:( I told her this is it your going and I mean now!

Grant, please check in here and update us with how she's doing.

+ 100!