+1

+2

+3

Dear Mrs Kong,

I'm very saddened of the news, like everyone here I pass on my best wishes to you and your family..

Dear Mrs Kong,

I'm very saddened of the news, like everyone here I pass on my best wishes to you and your family..

+1

---

Dear Mrs Kong,

I'm very saddened of the news, like everyone here I pass on my best wishes to you and your family..

+1

+2

This is dreadfully sad news. I am so very sorry.

In the times I was fortunate enough to have made a post that invited his comment, he never failed to add to my knowledge and understanding of what was under discussion. On the couple of occasions, when, because we were discussing climate change, or over population issues - and the future of the children we'd brought into the world being so intricately bound-in with it, what shone through his posts, was how much he loved his family, you and your children and how your happiness and welfare were at the very centre of his world.

I am glad you know MK's wishes, Mrs Kong. I know for me, that having that knowledge about someone I loved would be like being given their hand to hold while I walked my darkest night.

My heart goes out to you, and your children and to everyone who loves him.

edit: My apologies. I clicked post instead of preview.

I meant to add that above all, my thoughts are with Major Kong. This is an argument I know we all would want him to win.

+4

---

...

This is dreadfully sad news. I am so very sorry.

In the times I was fortunate enough to have made a post that invited his comment, he never failed to add to my knowledge and understanding of what was under discussion. On the couple of occasions, when, because we were discussing climate change, or over population issues - and the future of the children we'd brought into the world being so intricately bound-in with it, what shone through his posts, was how much he loved his family, you and your children and how your happiness and welfare were at the very centre of his world.

I am glad you know MK's wishes, Mrs Kong. I know for me, that having that knowledge about someone I loved would be like being given their hand to hold while I walked my darkest night.

My heart goes out to you, and your children and to everyone who loves him.

Words cannot express my emotions at reading such a beautiful statement. I went to the hospital and teared up as I was reading this to him.

I meant to add that above all, my thoughts are with Major Kong. This is an argument I know we all would want him to win.

I think that must be one of the most correct things ever said on this board.

---

https://youtu.be/iY57ErBkFFE

#Texit

Don't blame me, I voted for Johnson(L) in 2016.

Truth is dangerous... especially when it challenges those in power.

Words cannot express my emotions at reading such a beautiful statement.

You're doing fine, you really are, but I know what you mean. Sometimes we just have to let them tumble out and hope they'll work together. Like raindrops on a windowpane, it's not always certain which ones will find each other, and which ones simply won't. All I can say is I stared at that blank reply window for so long without any idea of how or where to start, but once I had, it was as if it had already been written, a long time ago, sometime somewhere on these boards.

I went to the hospital and teared up as I was reading this to him.

I imagine as soon as he heard you say "and the next one is from anniet" he teared up too ;) I'm not known for my short posts, in politics in particular, but MK somehow found the patience to sift through them, and the stamina to get to their end. I am so glad he did.

Wishing peace, love and support to all of the Major's loved ones.

I need to reread the entire thread before posting.

Mrs. Kong I am saddened at the news that MK had a stroke while in the hospital. It makes me feel very fortunate that my bout with pneumonia has ended without any additional complications. I also now feel the need to update my will.

---

Bob DeWoody

My motto: Never do today what you can put off until tomorrow as it may not be required. This no longer applies in light of current events.

Okay, here's a long post. I am a fairly religious person, though being called a "church lady" is a big insult. I mean no offense to anyone who is non-religious with this story.

There is no doubt in my mind that he would want to have every effort made to keep him alive, even though friends and family members and even staff members at the hospital have been begging me to let him go. To get further clarity about the situation, I decided to go to the nursing home where my MIL is staying. As soon as I mentioned DNR, she begged me to not sign one. I promised her I wouldn’t. MK has never wavered on his position in on this matter. He was livid when his sister signed one on their father.

So, the other night, I was making preparations for in case the worst happens. I laid out some possible candidates for his burial outfit. I also had the idea to put some of his favorite books in a backpack that his mother had bought him when he first started attending the college where we met. I remember him showing me this backpack the first time we studied together and talking about his mother. Anyway, I looked all over the bedroom for this backpack including the bedroom closet twice and the hallway coat closet twice. After a while I went to bed.

Yesterday morning, I was gathering pictures of him and more of his favorite books to put in the backpack when I found it. I decided to go look in the hall closet one more time. On my way out of the bedroom, I almost tripped over a wheelchair that he had gotten for MIL. He had bought this wheelchair shortly after she came home from rehab from a broken hip. She wanted to pay him back for it, but he refused claiming it as a Mother’s Day gift. When she went into the home, I brought up the idea of donating this wheelchair somewhere. He told me not to saying he might need it for himself. In fact, he didn’t even want me moving this wheelchair to the garage convinced that he would need it. The backpack was on the floor right next to the wheelchair. Later, I looked at the label to see what brand it was. It said, “Thrive.”

I was looking through his grandparents’ bible, looking for some scriptures to counter some of the arguments that the nursing staff were making at the Catholic hospital where he is staying when I came across Phillippians 2:27. “For indeed he was sick nigh unto death, but God had mercy upon him; and not only on him, but on me also, lest I should have sorrow upon sorrow.”

I spent the afternoon just hanging out, not planning on going anywhere. I did get the inclination to take the kids to the splash pad, but realized that would mean having to shave my legs. I got one leg shaved before losing the gumption. I wasn’t even planning on going out and seeing fireworks. I was chatting online with my mom when I started hearing some booms. I suddenly said goodbye to my mom, got up and told the kids to turn off their video games and put their shoes on. I grabbed my purse and key and didn’t even put on a bra. We then jumped into the car, and I drove to where the fireworks display in our town was. There was nothing. I figured I would drive to a nearby, slightly larger town, buy the kids some ice cream, and maybe see what we could find in the way of fireworks.

We didn’t get completely into the town when we started seeing some. So, we got our ice cream and started trying to find a spot where we could get a really good view of the fireworks. We ended up down this little back road that I thought would wind all over the place. We ended up driving past this little church: the Antioch Baptist Church. I am not kidding! The Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch is one of our favorite scenes from “Monty Python’s Holy Grail.” Then, we managed to find the big display the town had, and we were in just the right position to avoid the customary traffic jam.

So, yesterday, I received multiple signs that I am on the right track. I thank all of you for your support.

---

https://youtu.be/iY57ErBkFFE

#Texit

Don't blame me, I voted for Johnson(L) in 2016.

Truth is dangerous... especially when it challenges those in power.

One can only do what is in one's heart & pray that it is the right thing. Having a DNR apply is no easy action for an individual. I had to make such a decision on November 21 2005. It was not pleasant but I made it for two reasons.
1: My father was a long standing hard working man who did his best to support a family of 8 as well as his wife. As far as I'm concerned he did a good job. He was always active & on the go.
2: This may come across as harsh but it is fact. I know my siblings only too well being the eldest. Their actions & lack of communication that evening only confirmed my thoughts.

When the doctor approached us all approx. 7pm & informed that he had gone several times but brought back, as I asked the doctor a specific question I looked at all their faces, all heads were lowered.

Decision made. I also felt that dad would have wanted it that way, especially seeing the way his wife, our mother passed away in July 1997 from blood poisoning.

2005 was a sad year but also a fortunate one in that I came close to losing my partner. She recovered & was discharged in April that year. I suffered a stroke at home (2015) & just thought I had cramps. Fortunately my partner ignored me several hours later & called for an ambulance. Taken to hospital suffered another while in A&E so admitted straight away.

I was lucky & recovered pretty quickly & was discharged 4 days later. While researching strokes came across many stories of survivors, some after a bad one. You keep doing what you feel is right & when you next see MK, give him my regards.

I am not saying what anyone else in this situation should do. I'm just saying what I know MK would want.

---

https://youtu.be/iY57ErBkFFE

#Texit

Don't blame me, I voted for Johnson(L) in 2016.

Truth is dangerous... especially when it challenges those in power.

So, yesterday, I received multiple signs that I am on the right track. I thank all of you for your support.

You will need so much strength for this, and I don't doubt you will find it. But it won't be easy, and there will be people, who out of concern for you and what lies ahead, will struggle with this decision.

I'm not religious, Mrs Kong but I have a twin who is :) and I know my sister would tell you that it's the hardest path that's strewn with doubts (whether they are yours or another's) but to trust the signs because they'll have been sent to light the way. She will tell you, they're from God, and perhaps they are.

For all my head's rationalising of things like that away, I also have to admit that from time to time, my sister and I get that spooky twin thing happen, which is sometimes a lot of fun :) and sometimes so terrible, because one can be plunged into the other's pain without knowledge of what or why we suddenly hurt for them, just that we do, and there is no rationalising or explaining that. It's because I can't, that I can understand trusting signs - but perhaps like you are doing, I would see them as being from MK, just as I would put my faith in them being from my sister in a similar situation. Who knows whether somehow he has knowledge of a much happier time for all of you sometime in the future, something we all would like to dare to believe, or whether it's simply that he loves you all so much and wants more time to fight and win this argument. So while your heart is telling you you're on the right track, my heart is telling me you are right to trust it :)

I've got a link for you, which I'll send via PM shortly. Before I do though, have you considered visiting the Antioch church and perhaps speaking to the minister there? I'm sure they would pray for MK and for you. I know there are many here who will be doing the same.

**UPDATE**

First of all, thank you again for all of your support. I apologize for taking so long to get this update to you guys.

They tried to do a tracheotomy last week and had to stop because he had flatlined. They managed to get his heart going again with chest compressions. They did either a CT scan or an MRI (I forget which one) of his brain and spinal chord and found that he had a stroke, and several parts of his brain had been damaged. He is currently in a vegetative state. There is no doubt in my mind that he would want to be kept alive for as long as possible, so that is the course of action I am taking.

MY ADVICE TO EVERYONE: Whatever you would want in this situation, let your loved ones know. Set up an advance directive now while you can. There are instructions on how to do so all over the internet. And unless you really, really REALLY trust that person, do not choose an heir to make decisions for you. Well, choose someone that you would trust with your life, anyway, because that is literally what you are doing. I am so thankful that MK made his wishes clear to me when he could.

Anyway, thanks again for all your prayers and support.

MrsKong

Dear Mrs Kong,

i am so sorry to here this :(
Wishing peace, love and support to all of the Major's loved ones.

Charles _____ aka Byron

My friends, love is better than anger,
Hope is better than fear,
Optimism is better than despair,
So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic,
And we’ll change the world.

Okay, so once again, sorry for taking so long to update....

So, he was opening his eyes a little bit, and a doctor even said MK was tracking him. He's had a peg tube (a tube that runs from an incision in his abdomen into his stomach), but he hasn't really been tolerating that. I hoping that turns around soon. They're supposed to do another treacheotomy next week. That's the procedure that caused all the brain damage. I'm really nervous about that one.

---

https://youtu.be/iY57ErBkFFE

#Texit

Don't blame me, I voted for Johnson(L) in 2016.

Truth is dangerous... especially when it challenges those in power.

Okay, so once again, sorry for taking so long to update....

So, he was opening his eyes a little bit, and a doctor even said MK was tracking him. He's had a peg tube (a tube that runs from an incision in his abdomen into his stomach), but he hasn't really been tolerating that. I hoping that turns around soon. They're supposed to do another treacheotomy next week. That's the procedure that caused all the brain damage. I'm really nervous about that one.

I knew he'd be tracking those doctors :) Thank you so much for the update, Mrs Kong.

I will add my hopes to yours with regards to the peg tube and I know all of us will be wishing MK the very best for the treacheotomy procedure ahead. My thoughts are with you both and with everyone who loves him.

Mrs. Kong,

I understand your nervousness. My Mom had to have one. No issues with the surgery. Not that uncommon a procedure.

Wishing both of you the best.