Yet Es would never herself move to, say, the U.S. for such a crazy idea. ;)

Yet Es would never herself move to, say, the U.S. for such a crazy idea. ;)

He'd have to be a very special man for me to consider that. :)

Almost all dating websites, like Americansingles, Yahoo Personals, Match.com, etc, have hundreds, if not thousands of scammer profiles on them. There are a very few that check out their clients IP addresses, or billing information to ensure they are not fraudulent. They are the exception by far.

There are obvious bogus profiles. How many times does a person, on average, receive an e-mail from the "user" behind that profile? I have not received many, and I sure don't have the resources while in grad school to bring some woman over from the Philipines or Russia. LOL. In other words, if they're looking for a ticket to a green card, they're barking up the wrong tree!

See your point completely. But the way they work it.... Lets say you click on this beautiful womans profile, she is withing your local area, looks perfect, profile information says she is wonderful, and you initiate contact. You wonder why you have never seen her on the street, but that goes away, when she starts writing back to you.

She is a model or a consultant, or an engineer, or whatever, and for some reason, whether work related or family, or some other VALID reason, is in Nigeria or West Africa.... But will be coming home soon. AND she is quite interested in meeting you. Lets say this goes on for a week or a month or 6 months. Everything seems to be ok, she professes her love for you, wants to bear your children, etc. You have feelings for her too. Only problem is, she is 10,000 miles away.

See your point completely. But the way they work it.... Lets say you click on this beautiful womans profile, she is withing your local area, looks perfect, profile information says she is wonderful, and you initiate contact. You wonder why you have never seen her on the street, but that goes away, when she starts writing back to you.

She is a model or a consultant, or an engineer, or whatever, and for some reason, whether work related or family, or some other VALID reason, is in Nigeria or West Africa.... But will be coming home soon. AND she is quite interested in meeting you. Lets say this goes on for a week or a month or 6 months. Everything seems to be ok, she professes her love for you, wants to bear your children, etc. You have feelings for her too. Only problem is, she is 10,000 miles away.

1) The area I live in is small, but still has several thousand people. It is therefore, of course, possible to not "see her on the street." However, I can generally tell. If she's in her early 20s and says she's currently studying in college (and usually even goes so far to list one of the two institutions of higher education in this area ... though that probably provides too much information), I can get a feel for whether the profile and pictures make sense based on the university women I see around here. If older, well, they tend not to have the college education or only some college, and there's (unfortunately) a difference in looks.

2) Any woman who is claiming love for me so soon, and proclaiming a desire to "bear my children" so soon ... is either desperate or lying.

3) On the flip-side of desperation, even if one does not want something so fast, who would, after a time, not realize that it is all a fantasy based just on the distances alone?!? People using online dating services should set themselves distance requirements. 30 miles, 180 miles, 300 miles ... whatever makes sense for your lifestyle and resources. If the profile says she's in your area, but the e-mail provides different info, drop that one like a hot potato!

I, (for one), would NOT be Married if it weren't for my Church's On-Line "Dating/Matching Service" Website. It was only through this on-line dating Site that I met my Wife. Prior to using that Site, I did not date at all; I had virtually little to no prospects for dating/meeting anyone both inside and outside of Church. Therefore; on-line dating sites serve their purpose(s), people just need to be very careful on ANY of these dating sites. (Happily Married now for approximately 2.5 years, and counting...)

I fear this thread is a scam.

Dr. Phil was quite rude to the scam victims. Showed them no compassion whatsoever. A lot of the information they quoted on the show, came from the Romancescams group, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/romancescams/ - Over 14000 members that were victims of this type of scam. Currently 6000 active members, trying to do the public a service, and spread the word about these scams.

:)

"I'm trying to maintain a shred of dignity in this world." - Me

If you or someone you know, is in contact with someone in a foreign country, like Nigeria, West Africa, or Ghana, and they want help, monetary, or to cash checks and forward the money, or to re-ship packages, please go to or refer your friend to http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/romancescams for help, information and support.

Thanks