Posts by Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan


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1) Message boards : Cafe SETI : The PTSD thread (Message 1506555)
Posted 9 hours ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Everybody is different when faced with life threatening illnesses, here is my story, which I have already told here before which may help others.
My mum who died in 2000 had her first stroke 18 months previously and was
paralysed down one side, and was nursed at home by dad in difficult circumstances. Then it got too much and she went into a nursing home. A month before she had a second stroke which paralysed her down the other side as well, and she was transferred to the local hospital. I travelled a 300 mile round trip every weekend to see her.

Then came the day when my brother and I went to see the Sister in charge and asked to be told straight what the prognosis was. She said, as you have asked to be told, and we judge you can accept it, we will tell you. There is nothing more anyone can do for your mother, she is doubly paralysed and is being fed through drips and tubes. We can probably keep her alive in that state for maybe another 2 or 3 months maximum.

We can't do any more for her, but we can do something for your father. He is in his 80's and comes in every day and sits beside her holding her hand for 3 hours or more, it's not even clear she always knows he is here. Most days he leaves the hospital in tears. It is so sad to see it, and neither of them have any quality of life at all. We are going to keep the fluid drip going but withdraw the other tubes. She will quietly slip away in peace and without pain with sedation. We asked how long and she said a few days at most. She died 5 days later during the night.

I felt guilty at the time for agreeing to it, but I know now that it was the kindest thing for everybody at the time, and the nursing staff and doctors had everyone's best interests at heart. It was crucifying dad to see her like that, and another 3 months of that situation would have finished him. Last year he celebrated his 100th birthday, which I feel I had a hand in allowing to happen, so I was glad I was told the truth at the time, and not fobbed off with false hope.

Dear Chris,

Hi Chris I Know we know each other a little bit. but I just wanted to say God Bless you and God bless your Mum and dad. My mum committed suicide in 1952 when I was 13. I have been scared all my life. I'm not a very smart person. so I never got an education or a trade I was scared all my life and just work from job to job. My dad was University teacher. he was a kind gentle person but always broke and in debt. I was always scared Bill collector banging on door. we lived in two rented room in a house with 5 other families in Vancouver .............. latter my dad went in to the logging business but was forced out and went broke. when I took my dad to the hospital when he was dying of lung cancer I should have stayed with him to hold his hand. but I was too scared if I did that if I did not go to my minimum pay job I would get fired ... that was 1980 I would get fired. My dad died before I got to work along that day .............. I'm a scared. I never married ... so I will die alone in this one room I rent. In I'm getting very old now and I'm crying as I type this.

I guess this the first time I have ever talked about myself ........... since I joined SETI@home in 1999 ...... July 5 .................... I soo am sorry and I apologize ..................



Byron, thank you for all of your kind wishes of goodwill.
Angela


I must say I have to second that:)
Julie


our only home .....

tiny little planet Earth .....

be kind and gentle to one another

and ... God Bless, all you all
2) Message boards : Cafe SETI : The PTSD thread (Message 1506538)
Posted 10 hours ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Chris, thank you for sharing that. I can't imagine being in your father's shoes or yours in a time like that. I was asked initially when my mom was first admitted to the ICU a couple weeks ago if I wanted her on a ventilator and feeding tube, and I said of course, not really knowing what the future held, but she's now down to just what they call a T-tube, which means she's breathing on her own, but there is a tube down to her lungs to remove mucous accumulations. She's still on the feeding tube, but she said she was hungry yesterday, and wanted some Easter candy this morning, so those are good signs to me! The problem is, she still can't talk because of the trach balloon in her throat. In the next day or so, she's going to transfer out of ICU into specialized respiratory care where she'll get weaned off those tubes, and PT and OT can commence in ernest.

I get very anxious before I see her every morning, worried about how her condition will be, but she was really happy to see me this morning, and did her best to give me a hug. She also told me I need to take her to Kroger(the grocery) tomorrow. I think she's hungry, lol. I didn't stay real long this morning because she said she wanted to go to bed. I told her that wouldn't be a problem, lol.

Dear Gordon Lowe

I don't know if we know each other ... but I just wanted to say God Bless you Gordon Lowe and God bles your Mum. I'm getting very old now and I'm crying as I type this.
3) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Word Link #65 (Message 1506178)
Posted 1 day ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
yours
4) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Beer Drinkers thread part 12 (Message 1506177)
Posted 1 day ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
G'mornin' all.

Beer O'clock in 4hrs.

Cheers.

Good morning to Wiggo in the land down under

Morning is breaking in the land of Oz :)

in about 4 hours the light should start to fad on the west coast of Canada

Best Wishes
Byron
5) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Word Link #65 (Message 1505692)
Posted 2 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
life
6) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Whiskey's Mini-City News IV (Message 1505646)
Posted 2 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Thank you for the stats Michael :)
Hi Zap, Julie And everyone :)

Best Wishes
Byron
7) Message boards : Cafe SETI : TLPTPW 211 - Care for a jelly baby? Or, perhaps a Jammie Dodger??? (Message 1505640)
Posted 2 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Hello and Greetings to everyone in our SETI@home community.
I hope you are feeling well today.
enjoy your day :)
Best Wishes
Byron
8) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Rocky's Original Cafe - restocked & opened 16/3/2014 (Message 1505639)
Posted 2 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Hello and Greetings to everyone in our SETI@home community.
I hope you are feeling well today.
enjoy your day :)
Best Wishes
Byron
9) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Nobel prize winning author Gabriel Garcia Marquez dies at 87 (Message 1505598)
Posted 2 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Yes very sad :( I also loved his novel 'One Hundred Years of Solitude' RIP
10) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Raccoon Update XIX - All are welcome in the Critter Cafe (Message 1505399)
Posted 3 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
I don't post to often because I am kind of shy and quiet person so with a low voice I'll just wish everyone good health and happiness :)
11) Message boards : Cafe SETI : TLPTPW 211 - Care for a jelly baby? Or, perhaps a Jammie Dodger??? (Message 1505397)
Posted 3 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
I don't post to often because I am kind of shy and quiet person so with a low voice I'll just wish everyone good health and happiness :)
12) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Raccoon Update XIX - All are welcome in the Critter Cafe (Message 1503193)
Posted 8 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Hello and Greetings to everyone in our SETI@home community.
I hope you are feeling well today.
enjoy your day :)
Best Wishes
Byron
13) Message boards : Cafe SETI : TLPTPW 210 - Make Me Laugh! (Message 1503190)
Posted 8 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Hello and Greetings to everyone in our SETI@home community.
I hope you are feeling well today.
enjoy your day :)
Best Wishes
Byron
14) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Word Link #65 (Message 1502494)
Posted 9 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
fight
15) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Word Link #65 (Message 1502332)
Posted 10 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
nongrata
16) Message boards : Cafe SETI : TLPTPW 210 - Make Me Laugh! (Message 1502331)
Posted 10 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
I can Laugh :)
17) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Meet and Say Hello! (Message 1502303)
Posted 10 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Hello Hudson Nice to meet you.

Hello Jay also Nice to meet you.

I live on Planet Earth :)

Best Wishes
Byron

18) Message boards : Cafe SETI : Real Pictures of Real Seti Friends (Message 1501533)
Posted 12 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
I love this thread!!! I will have to dig though old photos and get permission to post things, but I think this thread will be so much fun!!!

me too :)

Best Wishes everyone
Byron



+2 Hi Byron! Hope all is well with you:)

Hi Julie,

all is well with me :)

to stay on topic of this thread I'll try to dig up some Photos of me to post :)

found one me in 1960 ..... OMG ... 54 years ago .. now I'm bald, fat, wrinkled and ugly :)


me :) ........ my High School Graduation Photo in 1960 :)



me :) ........ my High School Graduation Photo in 1960 :)

found one me in 1960 ..... OMG ... 54 years ago .. now I'm bald, fat, wrinkled and ugly :)


Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
19) Message boards : Cafe SETI : I'm going to bed now...night night everone. (Message 1501522)
Posted 12 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan
Good night Julie.

+1

Cheers.

+ 2
20) Message boards : Politics : Au Revoir (Message 1501519)
Posted 12 days ago by Profile Byron Leigh Hatch @ team Carl Sagan

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, "Desiderata"


Keep searchin',
Martin





Thank you Martin ...... I like that "Desiderata"
Best Wishes
Byron


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