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Message 1752789 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 1:10:30 UTC

...it might come down under $45,000.00, then I could afford it.


We Are Not in A Price Goes Down, Interest Rate Goes Down Economy.

Price Goes Down, Interest Rate Will Go Up.

Monthly Payment-Way Up.

Sorry 'Bout dat.

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Message 1752849 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 8:25:36 UTC - in response to Message 1752703.  

I agree with Annie (edit: and the angry white man surprisingly) and would like to suggest that those people here offering 'help' remember to watch their tone. With out meaning to I am sure, some of you are coming off as a little rude.

Vic is putting his situation out there, and such an act of trust should be met with understanding and a willingness to put yourself in his shoes.

Hopefully none of you have had to deal with such financial difficulties or living in such an isolated area, so you will have to rely on your imagination and remember that your own experiences are very unlikely to map directly onto Vics.

I live with finacial difficulties. I dont have a credit card. I have to pay cash for eveything I buy. Car breaks down, Sure hope I can work some overtime. Sorry We cant see that movie and go out for dinner this weekend.

Im Glad to be working 6 days a week for the past 4 months. Not because I want to, Beacuse I need to. I will also turn in a weeks vaction and get paid for it. That check will go right into my savings account for future things that want to breakdown.
I know about not having money.
I also know it is nice dreaming about things that might not ever happen.
But one does need to be realistic about one finacial status.
An empty fishtank that he dosent even know will hold water? Or the Samsung TV that is broke. And He complains he has no room?
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Message 1752868 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 11:50:44 UTC

Two comments, and a couple of suggestions
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1 - This "new" place looks to be in much better condition than the previous one you looked at.
2 - It is more expensive

Suggestion
1 - Without you having any money saved up for a deposit then you need to start saving NOW. Based on the latest property it looks as if you are going to have to have about $3700 saved up and ready land on the table. So start putting by $100 per month, so that in three years you will have that sort of money to lay down.
2 - You need to KNOW how much a lender will land you. So find a mortgage broker, these are people who earn their money by finding mortgages for "strange" cases", talk to them, and find out what they think you will be able to borrow, based on your current situation - the good ones will give this sort of advise free - they only charge when they start to look seriously for you.

Once you have started saving, and know what sort of money you will be able to borrow, then you can start to look. It is obvious you have a mental picture of what you want, and where you want it, so that's one bridge crossed.


(Last time I moved, from London to Birmingham, I had to use a broker as I had only just started out as a self-employed person, and had no usable financial history. Once I knew what I could expect to borrow I could start looking at what was available and where. In the end I found I could get a standard mortgage, supported by a small insurance premium and didn't actually pay the first broker any money for his 3 minutes of very useful advise.)
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Message 1752888 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 15:25:55 UTC - in response to Message 1752868.  

Two comments, and a couple of suggestions
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1 - This "new" place looks to be in much better condition than the previous one you looked at.
2 - It is more expensive

Suggestion
1 - Without you having any money saved up for a deposit then you need to start saving NOW. Based on the latest property it looks as if you are going to have to have about $3700 saved up and ready lend on the table. So start putting by $100 per month, so that in three years you will have that sort of money to lay down.
2 - You need to KNOW how much a lender will lend you. So find a mortgage broker, these are people who earn their money by finding mortgages for "strange" cases", talk to them, and find out what they think you will be able to borrow, based on your current situation - the good ones will give this sort of advise free - they only charge when they start to look seriously for you.

Once you have started saving, and know what sort of money you will be able to borrow, then you can start to look. It is obvious you have a mental picture of what you want, and where you want it, so that's one bridge crossed.


(Last time I moved, from London to Birmingham, I had to use a broker as I had only just started out as a self-employed person, and had no usable financial history. Once I knew what I could expect to borrow I could start looking at what was available and where. In the end I found I could get a standard mortgage, supported by a small insurance premium and didn't actually pay the first broker any money for his 3 minutes of very useful advise.)

Yes, it is more expensive, prices I've been told are negotiable. As to the $3700 interesting, that's roughly 5.5%. Thankfully I know which Birmingham you are talking about and it isn't the one in Alabama.. :)
I do have to buy some shocks for the car, pay taxes here still and I need to replace the drivers seat, so I can't start immediately, wish I could, reality bites here, at least the heat and the front door locks will get fixed soon.
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Message 1752889 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 15:40:42 UTC - in response to Message 1752871.  
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An empty fishtank that he dosent even know will hold water? Or the Samsung TV that is broke. And He complains he has no room?

The fishtank was one of vics follys some years ago for a "future project". It was second hand on Ebay and most likely does leak. Quite apart from the fact that Vic never thought about the weight of it filled with water, and the state of his flooring. Also remember that Vic is addicted to Ebay auctions, similar to gamblers. He loves the thrill of the chase, but usually ends up buying second hand crap at top dollar prices which he doesn't really need anyway, convinced he has got a bargain.

1 - This "new" place looks to be in much better condition than the previous one you looked at.

A run down garden shed would look nicer than the first place.

2 - It is more expensive

To the extent that Vic cannot afford it, full stop finish.

Suggestion
1 - Without you having any money saved up for a deposit then you need to start saving NOW. Based on the latest property it looks as if you are going to have to have about $3700 saved up and ready land on the table. So start putting by $100 per month, so that in three years you will have that sort of money to lay down.

In addition to that he needs to pay off three maxed out credit cards. What Vic has done is live on credit for years now. He gets a card, maxes it out, pays it off. Applies for a higher credit limit, gets it, and maxes it out again etc etc. Has he ever worked out how much money he has wasted on interest payments in the last few years?

2 - You need to KNOW how much a lender will land you. So find a mortgage broker, these are people who earn their money by finding mortgages for "strange" cases", talk to them, and find out what they think you will be able to borrow, based on your current situation - the good ones will give this sort of advise free - they only charge when they start to look seriously for you.

100% correct which I said before in this post Get an honest quote

Also don't forget that with no collateral and no savings, I would take an educated guess that he owes more than he is worth. In which case he is technically insolvent. He had better just hope that none of those card issuers call their debt in, else he could be declared bankrupt, and bang goes any idea of any loans ever.

You had a job Rob and a reasonable income. Vic cannot work again, he has to rely on minimal money each month. I really don't think that people fully realise just how precarious Vic's financial position actually is. He won't want my New Year advice but I'll give it to him anyway. In order of priority

1. Fix that outside door lock. If you get locked out it will cost you money you cant afford to get a locksmith to let you in again.

2. Fix that spare bedroom knob. Then you can shift all this extraneous stuff in there.

3. Get some trunking for those cables, and lose the boxes.

4. Get that old TV and the tank out of there, neither are of any use to you and are taking up space.

5. Pay off those three maxed out cards first to save the monthly interest payments.

6. When you are debt free again, then you can save for a house deposit. Then you can see what you can get for what people are realistically prepared to lend you. You rely too much on quotes over the phone from people that do not know your true circumstances, so you don't get a realistic answer.

Lets start 2016 with a new frame of mind Vic. I will back you all the way if you can be sensible and realistic. If you can't be then I can't do much more than point it all out to you and let you get on with it.

Well the aquarium did have some water in it when it was bought, just not a lot and it was salt water.

The door locks are on their way(surprise), the old TV will be out of here in a week or so, the door knob, being it's a cheap mobile home type, that will take some looking on Amazon, the standard type won't fit without some work and I don't have the tools or the back, but I'll look. The standard type has a rectangular plate to secure the bolt to the door, the mobile home manufacturer didn't do that here, just a friction fit for the bolt using a plastic sleeve, if the sleeve breaks, the bolt won't move or it'll be very hard to move, but I'll look for one new. I don't know if I can get rid of the aquarium, I may be freeway close, but selling anything that is not UPS/FedEx/USPS able is almost impossible here, since most people don't want to drive 100+ miles to get something I've found, Me I did, but I'm a rarity, I'm not afraid of driving.

Now hold on there, I have not lived on a credit card or cards.

Found the bedroom door knob on Amazon, a metal sleeve, good, I might be able to get that this month, but no promises.
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Message 1752912 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 17:22:55 UTC - in response to Message 1752777.  
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Now this program here is very good and could I'd think be used with this place, since 2 of the windows need to be replaced I think, since the GSFA Platinum program requires a credit score of 640 and 0.5% down, being a mobile home doesn't matter either. The 0.5% in this case would be $335.00, I'd want to replace 3 windows, 2 in front and the one in back, plus I'd have to buy a new refridge too, so that would work too. The GSFA gives out a 5% Grant, not repayable(for the down payment or for closing costs), I'd want the seller to pay all closing costs, the seller is a bank, so maybe $2,435.00 is needed on My part.

Thanks Rob and Lynn, May the 4th be with you both.

I'd seen this place, which is on the same block and street as My nephew lives on,
it's for $67,000.00 and is 1810sqft on a 7684sqft lot, with 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms, built in 1980, 36yrs old.
Listed as both a 3 bedroom and a 2 bedroom, weird.
The mobile home has what appears to be two windows broken or just boarded up,
though inside there doesn't appear to be any damage at all,
sorry there are only 6 pics, yeah I'm watching this one. Some pics are badly done.

The payment assumes a 5.5% down payment is or should be $347 a month(according to realtor.com),
I paid $320 a month in rent for an entire year a couple years back,
I doubt I'd be approved at this amount, but that's what a real estate agent is for, among other duties.
Zillow says $470 a month for 30yrs and is Bank Owned and no I'm just watching this,
who knows, it might come down under $45,000.00, then I could afford it.



A one car garage is included.

The living/dining room, big looking.

The kitchen, Lots of built in's.

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Message 1752913 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 17:31:31 UTC - in response to Message 1752849.  

I agree with Annie (edit: and the angry white man surprisingly) and would like to suggest that those people here offering 'help' remember to watch their tone. With out meaning to I am sure, some of you are coming off as a little rude.

Vic is putting his situation out there, and such an act of trust should be met with understanding and a willingness to put yourself in his shoes.

Hopefully none of you have had to deal with such financial difficulties or living in such an isolated area, so you will have to rely on your imagination and remember that your own experiences are very unlikely to map directly onto Vics.

I live with finacial difficulties. I dont have a credit card. I have to pay cash for eveything I buy. Car breaks down, Sure hope I can work some overtime. Sorry We cant see that movie and go out for dinner this weekend.

Im Glad to be working 6 days a week for the past 4 months. Not because I want to, Beacuse I need to. I will also turn in a weeks vaction and get paid for it. That check will go right into my savings account for future things that want to breakdown.
I know about not having money.
I also know it is nice dreaming about things that might not ever happen.
But one does need to be realistic about one finacial status.
An empty fishtank that he dosent even know will hold water? Or the Samsung TV that is broke. And He complains he has no room?

I've been poor too, fortunately I am not any more, I worked hard and borrowed money so I could get an education. I would not say that is the solution for everyone just because it worked for me. Even so I still buy all my furniture used, simply because around here you get better quality for less money. I just bought two Lazy Boy chairs off Craigslist which I am very happy with. When I was poor I was lucky that I lived in England which has (or rather had) a wonderful safety net that looked after me until I was able to get on my feet. I am very aware that is not the case in America, and being poor there can be a real trap, especially if you are disabled like Vic.

Your solution is to work hard and extra hours because you can, and that is awesome. Vic can't. He also can't pop out to the stores like people in England of on big cities can, because he lives in an isolated area. Ebay is an excellent option for people who are isolated, and unfortunately you do need a credit card to shop there. I'm not going to judge him on what he buys because people do whatever they need to do to keep themselves happy. Building computers makes Vic happy and I am glad he found something that does.

Advice is great, but it also doesn't have to be taken and it might not apply anyway.

If Vic gets into trouble with his debts I can absolutely give him some good advice and check out the consumer protection laws in his area if he needs it. Bankruptcy is not the inevitable end to defaulting on credit cards and the bank isn't likely to call in such small amounts anyway.

It looks like he has started to do things about the TV and the door knob, so that is progress. Advice is helpful, being judgemental is not.
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Message 1752915 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 17:42:11 UTC - in response to Message 1752913.  

Well I don't reveal everything behind the curtain, that's too much work, but I am making some progress.
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Message 1752919 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 17:55:22 UTC - in response to Message 1752913.  

I agree with Annie (edit: and the angry white man surprisingly) and would like to suggest that those people here offering 'help' remember to watch their tone. With out meaning to I am sure, some of you are coming off as a little rude.

Vic is putting his situation out there, and such an act of trust should be met with understanding and a willingness to put yourself in his shoes.

Hopefully none of you have had to deal with such financial difficulties or living in such an isolated area, so you will have to rely on your imagination and remember that your own experiences are very unlikely to map directly onto Vics.

I live with financial difficulties. I dont have a credit card. I have to pay cash for everything I buy. Car breaks down, Sure hope I can work some overtime. Sorry We cant see that movie and go out for dinner this weekend.

Im Glad to be working 6 days a week for the past 4 months. Not because I want to, Because I need to. I will also turn in a weeks vacation and get paid for it. That check will go right into my savings account for future things that want to breakdown.
I know about not having money.
I also know it is nice dreaming about things that might not ever happen.
But one does need to be realistic about one financial status.
An empty fishtank that he doesn't even know will hold water? Or the Samsung TV that is broke. And He complains he has no room?

I've been poor too, fortunately I am not any more, I worked hard and borrowed money so I could get an education. I would not say that is the solution for everyone just because it worked for me. Even so I still buy all my furniture used, simply because around here you get better quality for less money. I just bought two Lazy Boy chairs off Craigslist which I am very happy with. When I was poor I was lucky that I lived in England which has (or rather had) a wonderful safety net that looked after me until I was able to get on my feet. I am very aware that is not the case in America, and being poor there can be a real trap, especially if you are disabled like Vic.

Your solution is to work hard and extra hours because you can, and that is awesome. Vic can't. He also can't pop out to the stores like people in England of on big cities can, because he lives in an isolated area. Ebay is an excellent option for people who are isolated, and unfortunately you do need a credit card to shop there. I'm not going to judge him on what he buys because people do whatever they need to do to keep themselves happy. Building computers makes Vic happy and I am glad he found something that does.

Advice is great, but it also doesn't have to be taken and it might not apply anyway.

If Vic gets into trouble with his debts I can absolutely give him some good advice and check out the consumer protection laws in his area if he needs it. Bankruptcy is not the inevitable end to defaulting on credit cards and the bank isn't likely to call in such small amounts anyway.

It looks like he has started to do things about the TV and the door knob, so that is progress. Advice is helpful, being judgmental is not.

Get into trouble, hopefully not.
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Message 1752921 - Posted: 1 Jan 2016, 17:57:53 UTC

Living in A Mobile Home Park where Many or Most Mobile Homes are Not Occuppied and Never Again will be Occuppied would Give A Great Opportunity to Strip Available MBHs of Door Nobs, Faucets or Any Other 'Item' for Replacement in An Owned Mobile Home in Park.

Also, Abandoned Mobile Homes in Park are GREAT for putting One's Junk Into.

Certainly an Owner of Such A Park would not care if Needed 'Parts' were 'Robbed' and Vacant MBHs used as 'Storage'.

Creative Thinking and Action is Da Mother of Options.

Yep Yep Yep, so Goes Da Yup.

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Message 1753025 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 1:52:34 UTC - in response to Message 1752512.  
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"do it upper"


We say "fixer upper." (Just FYI. I'm very interested in the differences
between British English and American English.)
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Message 1753028 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 2:04:12 UTC - in response to Message 1752535.  

termites


I had my 120 year old shotgun house preventively treated when I bought it in 2001, and I think it probably should be done again, but my mother's house was done in the 60's when they were using a chemical called chlordane(I think that's it), and I remember the termite inspector said something to me along the lines of that stuff was banned because it's so toxic, consequently my mother's house should be termite free for a very long time... lol ;~)


"They" recommend doing it every five years, but since they are making
money from it, they may want you to do it more often than what is really
necessary.

I moved to North Carolina soon after buying this house (long story) and it
was a rental house for those five years, until I moved back. In that time I
never thought about having it treated, and the person who was managing the
house for me never said anything about termites. I suspect they invaded during
that time but no damage appeared for a while. One day I noticed them flying
away from an exit hole in my house, near the front door. That's how I found
out the house had termites.
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Message 1753029 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 2:08:29 UTC - in response to Message 1752627.  

Vic seeing as the big fish tank is empty, Get rid of it and get a tread mill. Whats more important? Looking at fish that you have to spend money on to maintain or your health?


I strongly agree.

Two, Call a pet store and ask what products they have that are safe to prevent Grace from chewing your wires.


I use something called "Grannick's Bitter Apple." It comes in a spray bottle
and costs about $10. It will last a long time. You just spray some on the
wires.

As for electric heaters when you use them they cost money. I use them also. but only as needed, Not as a stand alone source of heat.

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Message 1753031 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 2:12:00 UTC - in response to Message 1752637.  

Ian, do behave my good man :-) I meant jogging around within the trailer park compound where he lives. If he does a purler he'll be found fairly quickly. In his current physical state I wouldn't recommend he goes very far from his front door, always assuming he can get back in that is.


All this talk about jogging, I have to say that walking would be where Vic
needs to start. First slowly, trying to increase his stamina and distance. As
that increases then, maybe, some jogging.
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Message 1753032 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 2:20:58 UTC - in response to Message 1752692.  

You don't have the mindset out here of thinking that people are faking stuff either, so some Doctors are very skeptical and brush off what they hear,

You are suggesting that doctors in your part of America appear to think that their patients are a bunch of malingerers or hypochondriacs. Is this something particular to California or more widespread, and why should this be?


It depends a lot on money. If someone is rich or has good health insurance,
they get the best of care. If you're on medicaid (for the poor) or have bad
health insurance, you get bupkis. (Yes, America is in serious need of health
reform.)

it's why I haven't gone to the Doctor in over 6 months, I mean like why bother?


I would need to speak to your doctor to get his side of the story, before I could fully comment, but that is not possible because of patient confidentiality. If you feel that there is no two way dialogue between you and your doctor, can you request to change to another surgery? Or take a third party along to a consultation. Either way I would judge that you need medical attention. Because the UK is a smaller country we can get home visits within reason.


Brit "surgery" = US "doctor's office"

Plus the office has no proof of what I weigh, since their scale only goes to 300lbs, I've asked for a scale that goes to 500lbs and the guy who runs the office said NO. So I have to rely on Vons Super Market, which has a scale that goes to at least 500lbs to weigh Myself at,

Medical scales up to 500lbs are less than $200 so no particular problem for a medical practice I would have thought.

My car gets about 25 miles per gallon of gasoline(petrol).


That is an American gallon which is equivalent to about 30mpg from an Imperial gallon in the UK. I think you have an Escort XR2 cabriolet or similar. They do about 38mpg in the UK or about 31mpg in the states. Sounds like your engine needs a service.

And My half broke scale here? It needs 4 AA rechargeable batteries that I can put in My Duracell charger. Why half broke? Bad packing on the part of a seller.


Two points here, firstly 4 x AA rechargeables are about $8 + delivery, a lot cheaper than $70 jeans. Secondly, why did you not send the scales back for a refund?

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Message 1753033 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 2:22:47 UTC - in response to Message 1752699.  

It's much easier to write solutions to other people's problems than it is to solve them when they are your own and you're on your own, I think, however well-meant it is. And when you're not able to throw money at a problem to fix it, necessity is the mother of improvisation *blink at setizens* yes, I know I changed it :) so I understand box blockades to protect wiring, etc. In my case it was when a four month old kitten, abandoned on my doorstep, launched fifteen newborns *still-shocked blink* into my home a few weeks after I took her in. But that's not why I'm posting. I'm posting to say:

Vic, I wish you every success in reaching your goal :)

edit: and keep thinking out loud here about it - because we do care and practical advice and solutions will be useful to bear in mind.


FIFTEEN KITTENS??!!!! Holy crap!! I had a cat that had ten and I thought
that was a lot.
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Message 1753036 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 2:37:27 UTC - in response to Message 1752703.  

I agree with Annie (edit: and the angry white man surprisingly) and would like to suggest that those people here offering 'help' remember to watch their tone. With out meaning to I am sure, some of you are coming off as a little rude.

Vic is putting his situation out there, and such an act of trust should be met with understanding and a willingness to put yourself in his shoes.

Hopefully none of you have had to deal with such financial difficulties or living in such an isolated area, so you will have to rely on your imagination and remember that your own experiences are very unlikely to map directly onto Vics.


Disclaimer: I haven't read the rest of the posts so I don't know what replies have been posted.

Vic brought the subject up himself. I see those who have "given advice" as
people who want to help him from making serious mistakes (myself included).
I know what you mean that some of the posts sound "a little rude." I see
that as the equivalent of tough love. There's no point in not being 100%
forthright, even if it does sound a bit rude.

As for myself, I have had to deal with a situation that is similar to Vic's,
including buying and keeping things that I don't really need. I'm trying
very hard to break that habit (and have had a little success). I know that
I need to help myself before I ask for or expect help from other people. I
wish Vic would learn this. It would mean breaking some bad habits (the buying
of unneeded things, much as I did, and the getting rid of unneeded things,
which I'm still working on), and that's the hardest part.

I don't have the weight problem that Vic has, but I have depression and
chronic fatigue, which make it extremely hard for me to do things that really
don't "need" to be done. I'm saying this because there are a few things Vic
could do about the boxes/cord-chewing-cat that would take a little effort and
exertion/energy that he might not have.

That being said, I'm trying to help Vic, but only insofar as my own experience,
I feel, makes me qualified to speak up.
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Disclaimer: I haven't read the rest of the posts so I don't know what replies have been posted.

Vic brought the subject up himself. I see those who have "given advice" as
people who want to help him from making serious mistakes (myself included).
I know what you mean that some of the posts sound "a little rude." I see
that as the equivalent of tough love. There's no point in not being 100%
forthright, even if it does sound a bit rude.

As for myself, I have had to deal with a situation that is similar to Vic's,
including buying and keeping things that I don't really need. I'm trying
very hard to break that habit (and have had a little success). I know that
I need to help myself before I ask for or expect help from other people. I
wish Vic would learn this. It would mean breaking some bad habits (the buying
of unneeded things, much as I did, and the getting rid of unneeded things,
which I'm still working on), and that's the hardest part.

There is a difference between being empathic and being judgemental. Certainly what you have learned from your own experience is useful and I am sure Vic appreciates the sentiment.
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Message 1753065 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 3:49:23 UTC - in response to Message 1753029.  

Vic seeing as the big fish tank is empty, Get rid of it and get a tread mill. Whats more important? Looking at fish that you have to spend money on to maintain or your health?


I strongly agree.

Two, Call a pet store and ask what products they have that are safe to prevent Grace from chewing your wires.


I use something called "Grannick's Bitter Apple." It comes in a spray bottle
and costs about $10. It will last a long time. You just spray some on the
wires.

As for electric heaters when you use them they cost money. I use them also. but only as needed, Not as a stand alone source of heat.

Grace won't bite into cables that look electrical, like ethernet or electrical, though rca and hdmi, I don't know, She did once bite into a usb cable and after that chewed into one side of a lamp cord exposing pure copper wire then She started on the other side, since then electrical She hasn't touched. I was thinking more along the lines of a split loom wire cover, than spray. I'll do that when I install the new power strip that I have, cause the wiring there is a bit of a mess, some zip or twist ties will help there.

One of Her bad habits was not using a scratching post, though She has been using that more and more, cause every time She does use the post I give Her praise, and I tell Her firmly NO when She scratches on furniture(cats have sensitive ears), She's slowly getting the idea that scratching on the post is good and that doing the same on furniture is bad.
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Message 1753069 - Posted: 2 Jan 2016, 3:59:07 UTC - in response to Message 1753031.  

Ian, do behave my good man :-) I meant jogging around within the trailer park compound where he lives. If he does a purler he'll be found fairly quickly. In his current physical state I wouldn't recommend he goes very far from his front door, always assuming he can get back in that is.


All this talk about jogging, I have to say that walking would be where Vic
needs to start. First slowly, trying to increase his stamina and distance. As
that increases then, maybe, some jogging.

It's been 37 years since I could run, over hill and dale without falling on My face, so walking is one thing, I need to strengthen My back too, there is a gym in Victorville that could help, here there is nothing, beyond gas stations, hotels, fast food, a few stores, some other establishments and mesquite bushes, not to mention a road runner or two.

My front door I think has warped some since I lost the front awning over the front door in some gusty winds a few years back, I've got the locks on the way, the bottom one I can install right away, the deadbolt's hole needs some adjustment and that is a metal door jamb and I have no tools to grind or cut into metal, My dremel makes My hand go numb, it needs work, so I don't use that, so I'd rather pay the $55 for a locksmith to install the deadbolt.
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