My mother's never tried to defrost her phones in a microwave, but we don't have one. ;~) She does however have a tendency to place them inside her blouse or slacks, along with extra Hershey bars.

I do dwell on things that I shouldn't, but it helps to read support from all of you.

My mom has simple tastes, too, and told me the cheeseburger I made last night was the best one she's ever had. That's one of those things that will probably stick with me the rest of my life, and it's something good!

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My mother's never tried to defrost her phones in a microwave, but we don't have one. ;~) She does however have a tendency to place them inside her blouse or slacks, along with extra Hershey bars.

I do dwell on things that I shouldn't, but it helps to read support from all of you.

My mom has simple tastes, too, and told me the cheeseburger I made last night was the best one she's ever had. That's one of those things that will probably stick with me the rest of my life, and it's something good!

Put wet cell phone in white rice, it's supposed to draw out the water.

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My mother's never tried to defrost her phones in a microwave, but we don't have one. ;~) She does however have a tendency to place them inside her blouse or slacks, along with extra Hershey bars.

I do dwell on things that I shouldn't, but it helps to read support from all of you.

My mom has simple tastes, too, and told me the cheeseburger I made last night was the best one she's ever had. That's one of those things that will probably stick with me the rest of my life, and it's something good!

Put wet cell phone in white rice, it's supposed to draw out the water.

I've heard that, but orange juice is another matter...

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My mother's never tried to defrost her phones in a microwave, but we don't have one. ;~) She does however have a tendency to place them inside her blouse or slacks, along with extra Hershey bars.

I do dwell on things that I shouldn't, but it helps to read support from all of you.

My mom has simple tastes, too, and told me the cheeseburger I made last night was the best one she's ever had. That's one of those things that will probably stick with me the rest of my life, and it's something good!

Put wet cell phone in white rice, it's supposed to draw out the water.

I've heard that, but orange juice is another matter...

New phone time...

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Hmmm :) *make mental note of phone salvage tips*

Change of plans. Fetching my mum Wednesday. She wandered off, still in her nightie, some time this morning and was missing for at least three hours, possibly much longer. She's okay :)

Hmmm :) *make mental note of phone salvage tips*

Change of plans. Fetching my mum Wednesday. She wandered off, still in her nightie, some time this morning and was missing for at least three hours, possibly much longer. She's okay :)

There's a syndrome called sun-downer's, and one of the symptoms involved is wandering off in the evening, but it sounds like your mom has my mother's tendency to be anxious around sunrise. If my mother could walk, and without me here, she would be out the door around 5 am.

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anniet's need hugs...

Yes they do, and I give you as many as I can in real life as well as on the net :-)))

Real life hugs are far better, Chris :) The problem with internet hugs is that one can never be quite sure from whom the hugs come. Glad to see you back, Annie :)

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Well i like hugs from you no matter how.

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With each crime and every kindness we birth our future.

God bless Gordon, and Annie. My parents are 74 and, (thankfully), are in relatively good health both mentally and physically. Though dad has had his share of issues with being a colon cancer survivor, (fully in remission), and recently having a failing kidney removed... Otherwise, he's in good health and spirits.

Both are semi-retired. Mom takes care of my nephew during the week, and dad is still working in construction as a Project Manager. Both receive full Social Security benefits.

The only members of my dad's family that had dementia were great grandpa and great grandma. However; they were in their 90's when it came about. Great grandma died first, and then great grandpa.

We lived about an hour away, (I think... It's been a very long time ago, now), then... It was 1979 and 1980 respectively for each. I was in Junior High then.

The next one to go in my family was dad's mom. She got lung cancer from second hand smoke of my grandfather. (However; back then, no studies of second hand smoke were done...) She died in 1982, I was in High School then. For a couple years after she died, I had recurring dreams that it was Thanksgiving, or Christmas, and all of my relatives were at the dinner table. In the dream, every time my eyes came to grandma, the dream would just pause - then I'd remember, "she's gone", then the dream would restart, but without her there... It was hard for me. After 1984, the dream never came back.

My mom's mom died when I was very little. I don't remember her. So, when dad's mom died, it hit me hard.

Dad's dad went peacefully in his sleep. I remember the last phone call I had with him. He always called me "Sport". "Howdy Sport!" I miss that.

I guess, though, even with good health now, that I'll be dealing with the loss of my parents sooner, than later. I don't know what I'll do without them.

I'm just glad that I have friends here that I can talk to. Here on the boards, and some of you by phone, as well.

Again, God bless, Gordon and Annie. I wouldn't wish what either of you is going through on anyone; but, as others have said before, and I now join in... I'm here for you both.


TL

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I'm glad your parents are doing well, TL. As I've said quite a bit, and beat my myself up about it, don't(not that you do) take any of these healthy moments for granted.

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Hi Julie :) it's lovely to be back, thank you :) *get in hug-Julie queue behind Mike* :)

@Gordon. My mum's problem is the quantity of dozing she does... followed by the quantity of not knowing what time of day it is. So she could be sun-downing... just doing it first thing in the morning :)

@TL - nice post, and thank you :)

So - she's back home with me, as of late last night :) It wasn't meant to be late last night, and it wasn't meant to be accomplished by public transport either. But everything combined beautifully to deposit us in central London at the height of chaos that only a London Underground strike can produce. Y-e-e-s... and did you know there is nowhere near king's cross station to buy a length of rope to tie yourelf to your mother with, or to tie your mother to her suitcase with?

Bring your own I believe is the message they're trying to put out there :)

So - she's back home with me

Good. :~)

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So - she's back home with me, as of late last night :) It wasn't meant to be late last night, and it wasn't meant to be accomplished by public transport either. But everything combined beautifully to deposit us in central London at the height of chaos that only a London Underground strike can produce. Y-e-e-s... and did you know there is nowhere near King's Cross station to buy a length of rope to tie yourelf to your mother with, or to tie your mother to her suitcase with?

Bring your own I believe is the message they're trying to put out there :)

So, another thrilling adventure to chronicle for your Memoirs.

And possibly an example of what my very-distant cousin (on my Mother's side) Nietzsche said - What Doesn't Destroy You Makes You Stronger.

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My mother has been computing since 1200 baud modems, in the early days of Prodigy bulletin boards, and I got her online back then because she loved penpals, and that continued into emails and Yahoo groups. Ever since her illness last year, I've been helping her with replies. She has always printed and kept many, many of her emails and postings in paper folders, and while I could read these, I don't because it feels too private, and I don't know if I will, even after she dies. Not that the content is super-secret stuff - it's mostly related to her Catholicism, and day to day things, but I keep these colored folders neatly stacked on her desk, and in her shelves.

She also has several blank greeting cards, including one for my birthday, that she never gave me because she got sick last year.

It's just hard. I don't think I'll ever get used to being the parent now, for my mother.

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I hear you Gordon, I had to do that too.

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Today is my Mother's birthday. She would have been 87. Gone 7 years 4 months. STILL working through boxes and file drawers of their old records. Most is financial stuff - bank statements, credit cards and utility bills, some going back to the 1950s in Milwaukee. I look at all of it, but most goes through the shredder. Some stuff has sentimental value, so I set it aside for scanning later. Some stuff brings up memories, and I come to a screeching halt for awhile. And then life goes on.

Gordon, I think eventually you will read those files. Some will seem trivial, others will tug at your heart as you remember. And you will probably be glad you did.....

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Got this from a friend in an email, this morning, and I agree:

Although your main goal is to help and take care of your mom, be sure to take care of yourself as well. It’s like when you’re on a plane and before take-off they state out over the intercom all the do’s/don’ts. They talk about in the event a losing cabin pressure the oxygen masks will deploy. They always state to put it on yourself before putting it on your children or to help others. That’s a great metaphor/meaning for life in general as well – if you don’t put the oxygen mask on yourself first, you can’t help others. Likewise, if you don’t take care of yourself, first and foremost, you can’t help your loved ones.

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I like that Gordon, thanks for sharing.

+1

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Thnx Gordon, just hard to remember sometimes....

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SILENT ROARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

There :) Feel much better now.

That advice your friend gave you, Gordon... that is VERY good advice. Difficult to always remember to follow though.

Had need to take my mum up to accident and emergency as a precaution today, following a little "ta da! look how easy it is to trip over your own toe" moment which left her with a painful wrist :( Nothing broken though :) YAY! But she keeps forgetting how she got the sore wrist, and that it has already been x-rayed *bare teeth in semblance of smile* ... which is... fun.

It is still good having her back home with us though :)